"You've never done anything!" She said. The words still echo the head to this day, an insignificant reminder of all my mistakes and mistakes in a way to succeed that has been other than a straight and narrow way. Turn and bend, dip and dive, it sometimes looks like an endless maze, complete with cracks, potholes and traffic crews who never seem to miss plans for road repairs at the time you're hurrying where you're going.
And this is my biggest problem: I'm always in a rush. My mother's words, as annoying as they may have been at the time, were right – I was not finishing what I started. Partly because of impatience, and partly because I have quite possibly the worst attention deficit I've been practicing. My mind knows that he will lose interest soon so that it looks the fastest way to succeed and if it does not find it, dress it up as another deadlock on the spiritual roadmap that is my mind.
And when rushing or ADD can be your problem, I find that we share all common: our way.
It's not that the goals we create for us are unrealistic. That's the way they are. We set goals as one step, go from "here" to "there" plan of action and start with all the machines in question. We are working hard, moving towards what we want and things are going well. And then we make mistakes.
Unfortunately, we are human, and mistakes will happen. Suddenly, we are like a boy sitting on a raft in the middle of the sea, no country around us in all directions. How far did we come? How far must we go?
How do we even know? It's easy. We use ladder technology and learn to use arrows and small targets to achieve long-term ones. Create your goal as a level. When you look at points, your brain automatically recognizes that you need to climb any of these actions. You would not try to jump up at all levels in one jump, would you?
Some goals may need 5 steps, but some might need 50. Becoming a famous actor is likely to need more steps than losing 30 pounds (without course, Spielberg's last name). But seriously, every goal is to go only after one step, or they are probably not even worth recognizing as it is first.
When you get in shape, do not set your goal as: "I want to get fit." It's too wide and undefined, and will lead you 10 different ways to your conclusion before you end up frustrating because you really do not know what you do. Instead, look for it (or even extract it) as a score, and write out the small goals of each step. It may look like this:
Step 1: Clear your eating habits.
Step 2: Join the gym.
Step 3: 15 minutes of ECG per day.
Step 4: 30 minutes of cardio chart next week.
Step 5: Let the weight lifting routine for cardiovascular.
Step 6: Increase Weight Loss, 60 Minutes of ECG per day.
The stage show is good for two reasons: Not only does it give you a realistic step towards your long term goals, but when you make a mistake or lose interest, can you look back on what steps do you take? Keep on going and see what you've done so far. This is mainly important to keep your motivation high. If your goal requires a lot of work for a long time, you're going to lose motivation at some point. That's normal. Life happens. You are going on a bad day or your mind will be misled by other things that occur in your life, etc. You need to measure how long you come, how far you need to go and how far you will fall if you give up now.
Think about something you want to accomplish. Now draw 5 steps that you can take to get closer. Now see if you can change these 5 small goals to 10 goals. I really think the smaller the steps, the better, because the feeling of constant pressure continues to keep the motivation at the highest level.
Always work to climb the next step. Do not worry about the top. You can not reach the final step if you can not even get in 3rd place. Be enthusiastic. Because remember, though you can not jump up a whole ladder in one jump, you can certainly jump down one.