I have been a minister from 2003. As I have preached, taught and counseled individuals over the years, I have personally increased my understanding of God, I have grown through different experiences, both positive and negative. I have seen success in my own lives and mistakes and disappointments. I've seen the same thing in others & # 39; lives. It's one thing I've felt certain in this life, people are hurting, often feeling stuck and often afraid of how to overcome things that are facing. This led me to further increased study and strength in practical applications in theology. I started counseling more (Bible-based counseling based on secular psychology). I still offer Bible counsel for members and friends in the community as part of my ministry.
I have grown in my desire to help people along the way. In the preaching and Bible studies, I have added further focus on dealing with life problems and struggles, from marriage to anger. Obviously, this has always been a material held by the Church, but I had grown up for the real challenge of a practical application in these studies. In continuing my own growth, learning and understanding, I began to want even more ways that I could share the truth in the scripture, my experience, and my desire to help others. This has led me to start researching a new relief service called Life Coaching.
Life training is a fairly new help service, one of the fastest growing worldwide. The concept of training itself is a very familiar concept. Most of us have contacted a coach somewhere after the trip of life, if not many times after the seasons & # 39; pages. Whether it was a small departmental coach, or could be a tennis coach, possibly a school coach who taught us basics in sports in our four classes, the term and term of training has been around for a long time. So we can leave a coach from a sports perspective, but what is a coach?
Life coach is the one who works with customers to help customers reach their goal. It is not a professional advice. Counseling (in the secular field of psychology) is about treatment. Counseling is often about using evidence-based treatment techniques to help patients view and deal with the past. Recent relationships, pain and unresolved issues that cause increased anxiety or pain in modern times are often the reason why anyone could seek advice. Now it can be said that counseling is often daring to the definition I'm just brave but hopefully it will suffice to demonstrate this point: training is not a counsel.
Training is a service where a trainer takes into account customers to help them assess who they are, the goal or the goals they are trying to achieve, and the resources they have in achieving those goals. The International Training Center and the World's Best Training Center, the International Union, say this about training:
ICF defines co-operation with customers in a thinking and creative process that encourages them to maximize their personal and professional potential, which is especially important in uncertainty and complexity today's environment. Coaches honor the customer as an expert in their lives and work and believe that each client is creative, smart and healthy. (International Coach Federation, 2013)
Training is not a substitute, nor a substitute for advice but a completely different process. If anyone needs counseling and can benefit from the counseling process, you should seek advice from a counselor or psychiatrist (of course, my motivation here is a biblical and theoretical Christian counselor.) If someone else is emotionally, mentally and physically stable, they think they are in a "rut" and are not evolving towards the goals they have set themselves, a coach who specializes in what area or niche the customer is looking for could be very helpful.
The next logical question was how does training work? As we have already said training is not a counseling, and just so that we are clear training is also not a counselor or a guide. Training can, and sometimes reduces these different areas; Although training is one thing on one hand to help customers succeed in their lives. A trainer is able to carry certain tools, active listening and evaluation to help the customer discover or realize who they are. In my case, as a Christian coach, God made them to be. A coach will also help the customer to see where they want to go and what it will take to get there.
This type of process involved in training is a very open and transparent process. A trainer will often share his story, genuine ability to demonstrate experience and understanding in the field that a customer seeks for help. It is this transparency, which often extends and divides the coaches from their own personal experience, which helps coaches and customers to form a partnership that will create the desired results.
With some explanations and processes in front of us, allow us to use potential circumstances to describe. I am a minister and has been a full-time minister for more than 10 years from the writing of this essay. Over the past ten years, as well as the years before, I've had a lot of opportunities to sit in conversation with many different problems, pain and research. I would also say many good times, but for this reason, I have experience of talking to persons who are hurt or in a "rut". A potential customer comes to me, we will call him John Smith, who has some problems with his marriage, how can I see this situation?
Well, first, I want to meet Mr. Smith. I will ask either by question or in personal conversation to try and help me discover who John is. I will ask questions about his family, how long he has been married, how long did he date his wife before he got married. I will ask and seek to find out about his job or career, about children if he has them, about family and friends. I want to know who this person is in my office, but I also want him to discover or maybe revive who's in progress. To take a little self inventory.
Next, I want to know why he has come to me. I want to find out what he seeks to achieve, what his goal or goal is. I want to work with John to help him understand what this goal is or should be. At this point, a little word of ethics would be appropriate. I want the goal or goal that Mr Smith is going to be pursuing to be his goal, not me. My coach as a trainer is helping the client achieve his goals, to see themselves and own resources, not to shape them in a photo of their choice. I also want to make sure in this process that my client is in a place where training will benefit him. I want to listen, and observe evidence that John may need a treatment cure or even medical attention. It would be unwise to train a person who would be better served at this point by a psychiatrist or doctor.
We will assume I helped Mr. Smith achieves the goal, he has decided that he needs a better relationship with his wife. Here's where, as a coach, I can draw on my experience with other couples, including my own marriage, to help establish and create a context for their own struggles. By drawing similar situations, I'm looking for a few things. One to demonstrate my experience to help the customer. Secondly, to showcase the situation. The first dissatisfied often leave people without hope. This must be restored to affect the change.
Now we are looking for a plan to help the client achieve its goals. This may be an assessment of what the client already knows and finds the soldiers who keep the client from performing the changes he knows when he needs to do. This organizational process would include helping the client create an action plan to reach measurable steps towards his goal, but also keep it responsible. This is one of the main emphasis on training, that we must keep our clients responsible for making a change.
In order to keep my clients (and of course, customers) responsible, I'm also responsible for that. It's about trust. Dwight Bain said, "Trust is all." (Bain, 2013) This statement is then the money. Without trusting what do you have? We must keep ourselves as coaches to high quality credibility.
Hopefully, by evaluating, organizing, educating (where needed) and responsibility, helping Smith achieve his goal of better communication with his wife. This is a form of how a professional relationship in training would work.
This is where my trip has led me to become a coach. Perhaps when you look at my trip, you might consider what you've been turning off and reaching the next section of your life.
International Coach Federation (2013). Official Website of the International Association.
Bain, Dwight. Light University Course, LFCH 101 Introduction to Christian Life Coaching, 2014.