We set all goals in a variety of ways, but how many people follow our goals and achieve them? Are our goals determined or loosely created based on our future plans? Many of us really want to succeed in our efforts; however, we do not manage to set "right" goals that lead us forward.
Setting goals involves many diverse elements still for the sake of this article. I will focus on setting goals by using solution focusing methods. These methods are based on a type of consultant called solution-focused short therapy, a popular approach used by many advisors (especially school counselors).
According to Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg (developer with targeted treatment), the foundation of this approach focuses on the strengths, resources and solutions of people to promote change. Switching away from problems and solutions through goal setting is what promotes healthy change. Creating goal-based approaches based on present and future.
The most important thing about setting goals is that they need to be in your possession. Setting your own goals or combining goals with a coach will help you take ownership that leads to tangible results.
There are many creative ways to set goals, but the following list of goal setting properties will help you create selective, feasible, action-based goals based on a solution-based approach.
Positive goals in contrast to negative goals are to create goals with the presence of behavior or the beginning of something. Having positive goals enables you to monitor and evaluate your actions. Specific positive goals help to provide information about when you are moving in the right direction that will greatly allow you to create solutions. Setting positive goals will help you get positive results!
Creating concrete and specific goals will give you the opportunity to evaluate your performance and monitor if you are on track to achieve your goals. Make sure your goals are not defined easily, but measurable with specific output. For example: "Go on five hours a day." Write your goals and submit them so you can view them every day.
When setting behavioral behavior, it is important to think about what kind of behaviors / tasks you want to incorporate into the goals. For example, if you have the goal of spending more quality time with your children, you can ask yourself like:
* What types of things would I do that would tell me I was spending quality time with my children?
* What would my children say I was doing that would show them that I was spending quality time with them?
By asking yourself these questions, it will help to paint a visual picture of your goals and what they look like for you and your important people.
Decreased in Small Steps
Create goals that can be reduced in small increments. According to the solving goal, only a small change is necessary because a change, no matter how small, makes the context a further change. Creating smaller goals allows you to better manage your goals and make them accessible. It also lets you know the smaller changes you make that give you more power to make bigger changes and achieve your goals!
Setting Short and Long Term Objectives
Setting long-term goals is meaningful and probably the most important in setting goals. However, the problem is to set only long-term goals that they are set so far in the future that many of us wanted to focus on or achieve without short-term work. So it is necessary to set both long and short term goals. For example, long-term goals could be: "Complete my MBA within four years." Examples of short-term goals could be: "send 5 MBA programs in deadline May 15th." Your short-term goals can be set for a few days, weeks or even a few months. Make sure your goals are temporary and achievable in the near future.
Hypothetical Goal Statements
If you have a hard time setting goals, it may be useful to think about what you want in the future. You may need to form yourself six months out or five years from now. Setting up appropriate behaviors will help you see what's possible. For example, "I want to learn how to create a search engine friendly website to generate more traffic for my business."
I can not discuss resolution focusing without mentioning the famous miracle. Discovered by deShazer (1990), the miracle is used to help you develop well-defined, accurate and realistic goals. Below is the miracle. You will want to write down your answers to the miracle to help create ideas to set the goals.
"Say you've been sleeping tonight, miracles happen and because you were asleep and you do not know it happens. You must discover that this miracle has taken place? What must you notice? that you have to do differently? "
Using the miracle helps to try out solutions that may not have existed before. Keep in mind to be determined in your answer and that your goals should contain something or begin with something (positive goals). Therefore, you can create well-defined goals.
Keep in mind thinking about your success and focusing on what is happening right because you have your own resources to set goals and achieve them. Remember that setting positive, specific, precise goals requires reflections and progressive actions!