The feeling is an unpleasant experience for most of us. All too often we confuse FEELING stuck by being stuck – if we feel stuck it must be true! And the longer we hold, the more we believe – denting our self-esteem and believing in ourselves that we can solve this problem and get free. A real vicious circle!
Well, there are many, many ways to help your customers get unstuck – and move. Here are 5 essentials to share when your customers are stuck:
1) Review the goal: When you're a permanent client – this is the first place to start. Do the target posts need to be replaced? Do they need to be higher, wider, to another place? Should they shoot for heaps, not goals? We're talking about goals & # 39; Ecology & # 39; – Ensure that the objective is in line with our customers' values and that there are no unexpected negative side effects to achieve their goal. Our subconscious often understands that goals are inappropriate long before we do and this can hamper our progress. So it is necessary to ask first: "Why do you want the goal?" and "What are the opportunities they are looking for?" Then check that the goal fits the customer's lifestyle, relationships, and deeper value. Look for unexpected results – now and in the future. If it's an old goal, make sure it's still valid for who they are. And last but not least, check if it's their goal and not someone else …
REFRAME: Is the goal really right for them?
] 2) Give them new perspectives: How could they accomplish the same part differently? What is the bigger picture? What possibilities have they not been thinking about yet? A new perspective means getting the client out of solid or black and white thoughts about the problem and involves a good question and mindset that leads to the identification of new possibilities. Ask them to become crazy, outrageous and think about impossible impossible options with & nbsp; normal & # 39; brainstorming fare! Get them to make a huge list of ideas and get their creative right brain activated.
RefRAME: Think Potential is not likely.
3) DO NOT ACCEPT, NO ACTION: Doing anything, always gives our customers more information than before – even if it explains what I should not do! This can even mean taking action in all unrelated areas of their lives. Change of life & # 39; the situation & # 39; can give them a new perspective and thus a new light on their problems. Also useful is "Build bridge" training – they do not have to be able to see the other side of the bridge; They just need to take the first 3 steps. Once they have taken the ones they can see the next 3 steps and so on – until they have crossed their brows!
REFRAME: Do something, anything!
4) STRENGTHS OF SOFTWARE: Really support and motivate your client. Show an absolute, confident belief that they can find their own answers. And as in treatment, it's incredibly important that your client is truly a witness in the current situation – that someone sees them, agrees them as they are and are willing to continue with them from the current perspective.
5) DISCONTINUED: Often, what limits people's beliefs about what & amp; # 39; s slow or what they deserve and can. Of course, there is one definition of faith: "Something we think to be true – without proof …" And restrictive views can be from the special ones, "I do not have enough money" to general and harmful attitudes like, "I'm worthless" or "I'm preparing." As a coach, this is one of our main roles – listening closely and watching that we can help our customers know and go through their restrictive attitude. Ask: "Where are you going on your own?" and for fun, "What would you do if you do not want to achieve this goal / want to be stuck?"
REFRAME: If there is no proof that this belief is true, why not choose positive or profound faith rather than restrictive?
Of course, there are many more methods and variations available to you, but whatever, give your customers endless support for patience and encouragement and keep them careful, often there are very few impossible limitations – just impossible time limits. They are "I'll get there."