As a coach, I know that fear is responsible for much, if not the most, frustration and failure. When my clients learn to work and overcome their fears and concerns, they step into the world of virtually unlimited possibilities and enjoyment. I believe this article will help you understand more about fear and choose how you respond to it, create space for greater meaning and prosperity in your life.
When dealing with fear, it is good to realize that not all fears are created equal. Timothy Gallwey and Robert Kriegel defend a whole chapter of two fears in their book "Inner Skiing", which they call fear 1 and fear 2. Fear 1 expands risk and vulnerability but minimizes your understanding of fitness. In other words, Fear 1 is Fantasy Expectations that appear Real.
Fear 2 allows you to mobilize all your creatures. It includes a series of incredible physiological changes that prepare the body for maximum performance. Fear 2 emphasizes attention, which gives adrenaline to special effort and sharpen perception. Fear 2 promotes successful actions; Fear 1 in parallel with us and prevent action.
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List all your fears, write as fast as you can to close the internal censorship. Include every fear, though small or illogical. Then read them out loud and keep a judgment. Allow yourself to feel fear without interfering with the bladder. Notice that being afraid does not mean losing the ground.
If it's comfortable, share your list with friends. Before sharing your list, explain that you simply want to witness that you are playing by recognizing your fears without being pushed by them. Be aware that you are not asking for assistance and that you do not need advice. You do not have to be stuck. Ask your friend to simply listen and acknowledge yourself to be aware of your fears.
Now you have the opportunity to sort your fears by brand. Work through your list, mark any fears like:
– Fear 1
– Fear 2
– Not sure, or involves elements of both types of fear.
Write down your fear is a powerful step in dealing with fear and concern and ultimately managing them. Until you write them down, they are like so many vehicles in gridlock. Once you have paper, you can put on someone and move others and clear space for continued motion. So writing down your fears creates space for awareness and choice. (Tip: Do not judge yourself or your fears.) Just read and mark them.)
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When you have a list, keep an eye on what fears 1 and fear 2 attendees. The following differences will help:
– Fear 1 promotes panic and confusion. Fear 2 promotes clarity and purpose.
– Fear 1 is often about saving a face. Fear 2 is about to step out of your comfort area.
– Fear 1 calls to avoid facts. Fear 2 more awareness and perception.
– Fear 1 wants you to just stop. Fear 2 wishes you to continue with power and indeed.
– Fear 1 expands risk and vulnerability. Fear 2 calls for our ability to respond to danger.
– Fear 1 originated in our own mind. Fear 2 is a total system response.
Both types of fear are present in many cases. What matters is to use your power and discrimination to lower the volume of fear 1 while calling for fear 2 for energy and focusing on continuing. Through exercises, you can actually transform fear 1 into fear 2 by focusing on and accurately assessing the actual risks and your actual skills.
For example, fear 1 makes an awesome skier (and I speak from experience!), See a slope where the slope is actually quite moderate. When the skier stops and measures the actual slope by holding her pole parallel to her, she increases awareness of real circumstances and reduces the effects of fear 1. By continuing to look at the slope, see in her eyes how she would ski the slope if she chose it, it further reduces panic. When she finally takes down the hill, relying on her fitness and in her assessment of the challenge, she completes a shift from fear 1 (panic) to fear 2 (focused experience).
Learning to deal with fear in this way takes practice. The salary may be unlimited when you remove obstacles to learning, achievement and joy.