In my workshop, I shared what I read about the increase of adolescents sent to the Department of Mental Health Hospital by counselors in schools in our Straits Times. report in March 2008. Is it fit for their jobs or parents who are not in partnership? It's very sad because the number of parents suffers from the same sadness, worry and anxiety and adolescents and does not know what to do. The difference is like an adult, we can agree better, we can see it better and teens have limited resources to reduce. They can not shape or express themselves as they like. They clammed up, shut down or act. When they work out, parents often think they are rebels.
Some parents who have trouble interacting in a different way and their children switch from children to young adults get excessive shock to find their teenagers react very differently. Suddenly the child starts talking again, refusing to go out with you, want to talk less and find you annoying. If you find yourself facing the same matter, you are not alone. Your child is moving to young people, young people and looking for their identity. It's time to stop parents and start training. Give them space to grow and do not make them wrong. Their hormones come in as we leave. If we demand it to treat them like a child, you will find that struggle and your relationships can be injected.
Stopping parents and starting training means something different. Start by being aware of the change of your child. look at them differently. They are not children, they are in transition to young adults. Stop telling them what to do. Stop protecting them. Teenagers need to learn from mistakes. Parent teacher listens more, speak less.
Some training skills to begin with; Instead of telling the child what to do, learn to skip and ask questions instead. For example, "Is it good to talk?" If not, ask them: "When would you like?" By asking them these questions, they felt they were respected. Get them on time because they are very focused on peer pressure, learning pressure, school expectations and parents. Very often they find it difficult to cope with or deal with changes in their bodies. They begin to feel that they need to be independent and want to move from parents. Seek to understand them then understand. Do not make sure they do the same things when they were in elementary schools. Nevertheless, we need to guide them, guide them, encourage and motivate them. This can be learned from some lifestyles.
Here are some very specific questions that you may want to ask yourself about your relationship with your teens. Explain where you are in contact with the youth and where do you want to go from here. What are the changes you need to do, how can you talk differently to them to get positive feedback from them. How can you support them in their growing pain. Do you also suffer from menopause or opposition? If you could write your thoughts or answers to these guidelines, you are on your way to the self-consciousness. You must begin to experience training skills that differ greatly from our traditional parenting process.
How can parents also promote young people with new life skills to work with them as the world becomes more complex. Stop parents and start training.