"You can not do anything right!"
"You suck in everything!"
"God are you always stupid!"
Who could be so cruel talking to someone like this? However, these words probably resemble you, because that is how most of us speak – to ourselves.
Words like this turned home to me more that I feel like to acknowledge. For a long time I struck in such a situation, but I could not even upset me and said hello. I once thought that compassionate and heavy was my compliments.
I never dreamed that I would write articles like this, especially one this personally.
Because of lack of self-esteem, I did what an independent respected adolescent would do. I accused others. I accused it of my parents. Sometimes I would even blame the children on the playground from so many years ago, who told me I was ugly.
Now I know I created most of my own problems. When I started telling me I was ugly, stupid and could not do anything right, I put up suicidal prophecy.
I neglected my look and made me unattractive. I never tried very much in any spirit of attitude that made many people not like me.
When I arrived at college, I felt sick how my life was going. Enough was enough. My life was not going to be a mysterious recovery, and nobody else came to my rescue.
I realized that if I wanted to be happy, I had to work for it. If I wanted a miracle in my life, I had to make them happen to myself. The only problem was that I had no idea where to start.
One day I heard about a book called Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz. It opened my eyes to my subconscious programming could change. Self-talk is the secret.
Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon who often wondered what made some people improve their lives after losing consequences. On the other hand, some patients were as insecure as ever, even though they achieved a perfect appearance.
This led him to life-long research in human minds and human possibilities. He came to the conclusion that you had to see it mentally to succeed. With visualization and self-talk, you can turn even miserable situations.
To fight against a negative self-esteem, I learned a visual giant red stop sign and mental scream "Cancel" every time I had an independent conquered thought. I also learned to try to change years of unconscious programming and a negative self-esteem is about trying to get dressed in washing a cat. I had to think of "Cancel, Cancel, Stop" so much that it seemed absurd.
But over time, I began to respect myself for doing the best I could with the knowledge I had. Gradually, my volunteer became more powerful. With perseverance, new thoughts took place, and for the first time in my life I felt self-reliance.
Changing your own chat is like trampling a new way through the forest. With each use, the new way becomes clearer and the old way grows with grass and weeds. It's hard at first, but the prizes are well worth it.
This life can only be as great as our minds will allow it to be. Our controlling thoughts determine our beliefs, beliefs, and most importantly, our actions.
Everything you want most will not fall from heaven. Happiness and success are only possible when we take full responsibility for ourselves. It begins when we become more aware of and more in control of the most important conversation that any of us will ever have – the one inside.