I once mentioned to my chiropractor that I often slouch. He told me to stop saying that. It was still a reminder of how much we influence the stories we say. Maybe I will not slouch so much if I stopped telling me that way.
Our circumstances are the products of history that we tell ourselves. We can change or strengthen our feelings with these stories. And how often do we sign in with these stories to confirm their validity and decide whether a particular story is appropriate for where we want to go to life or not?
Example: I can make a statement: "My husband deceived me." It's a sad overview and it could make me angry or depressed. I could reflect this statement in my mind every day – paint me as a pardon of the victim over and over again. As time passes, I may learn to ignore the inconvenience that comes with this fact. I could go on and try to forget that "my husband deceived me" but knowledge is still there.
Now … let's look at this story a bit closer. Is it true? At one time it was. But no longer. These days I do not have a husband. How could he cheat on me?
One might suggest that I reflect and say, " My former husband deceived me." It's more accurate, right? Eh … is that? I mean … did he betray me ? I will have to say "no." The wife, who experienced this unbelief, lived in another house, in another town. She wore different clothes, had a different car and had a different job. She even had a different name. This woman played away long ago since she developed into the person who is typing these words now. I'm no longer the person. I'm no longer a victim . In truth, I'm no longer a heroine who left his cheating husband (Let's be honest, right?) This chapter has passed) .
Life brings a plethora of stories – and many of them are not happy themselves. As we live in our daily perspective, we could tell our ugly stories over and over again to friends, family members, therapists, and lawyers who ask "What's New?" Egypt "how are you doing?" As time goes by, this story said "repeat" in our heads and hearts. They drive our feelings that drive our actions that create our circumstances. This chatter in our heads blinds us in the present by keeping us the father of the past who suffer from the effects of another story.
Pema Chodron points out, "Feel the feeling and let go of the story." It's great ambition. Unfortunately, it's a bit hard for those who are less informed – it's hard to drop it especially in difficult times when we have to dress something something ].
So what then? If you find yourself playing spiritual mixers, stop and listen to text. Then take a record of your current life. Is the soundtrack still the story? If not, it's time to get a new whole CD.
The new story should not contain previous information (at least not too many of them). Try to implement these situations, along with what you are talking about or what you want yourself. For me, something like: "I make delicious toast. I write my other novel and I have a good attitude."