In our first self-confidence article, we looked at the definition in the dictionary, as part of them as follows:
"Realistic trust in self-judgment, ability, power."
We explore how our self-talk can affect our self-esteem. Today, I would like to look further into our particular independence. It's something I've just recently come across, although there has been a phenomenon that has been around for some time.
A few years ago, when I was first looking to improve my confidence in the workplace, I approached the topic recommended, as part of the overall work plan, to write down three affirmations about my self-esteem. I was repeating this aloud, several times over, like at least twice a day. I was impressed – a prescription to improve self-esteem, a good idea. And it sounded relatively easy.
What happened when I repeated my sentences? Well, it was part of me that said, "You are a strong, safe woman, etc." But when I repeated sentences, another part of me said, "Actually, I think you're not strong or safe-stop saying you're" Verifications did not work with me. " Actually, I was the highlight – why I was the opposite. Why was this?
The reason is very simple – Our unconscious mind already has deep roots and values. When we use our conscious mind and try to Contrary to these values, our unconscious mind points to the paradox. This is why confirmation does not always work – if the confirmation is in direct contrast with the underlying belief, unconscious thinking simply will not accept it because it believes that authentication is not true.  Recently I came across something called Afformations. Afformation is different from authentication. Confirmation is a statement. It's anna if false. Something unconscious mind can represent an own views and rejected.
Afformation the question. It's an unanswered mystery, a puzzle, an open loop. And that's the beauty of deformation.
Unconscious thoughts like closing.
Because it's an open loop – a question – unconscious thinking does not reject deprivation. It seeks to answer the question of the deformation to ask. And in answering that question, it gives itself the belief that the deformation is true.
For example, confirmation would be something like that. "I have financial freedom." Unconscious thinking could confirm that this is not the case and reject that statement.
Afformation would go something like that. "How can I have become indebted so soon?" A unconscious mind now has an open loop, so it will start working on the answers. It must therefore be assumed that at some point in the future you should be indebted to answer the question.
So, try this simple exercise to help you with your confidence.  Write down ten variants – read them every day, morning and night, and keep track of the results you get. The reason for reading the deformation first and foremost is that these are the times when we are next to the trance situation, as we can approach our potential unconscious minds – the countries closest to the period between waking up and sleep.