Emotional Intelligence or commonly known as EQ has been considered one of the key needs for good school performance and workplace success since Daniel Goleman was more popular this idea in 1995.
Emotions are like energy that fuels our behavior, issues and actions. You know how you did when you felt positive emotions like trust, motivation and excitement. You must also have delivered less than ideal results when you felt negative feelings such as anger, sadness, and fear.
Usually, most of us are taught to suppress our feelings so that we can be logical and reasoned in our decisions, issues, and actions. Although you have used it to survive unpleasant situations, it does not strengthen emotional muscles and develop into better performance.
How to manage, learn and even take advantage of our feelings to break your success and achieve better results. Let you look at 5 Emotional Keys to break through your success.
1. Emotional Awareness
Most of us deny our negative feelings without knowing that we are actually consuming negative emotions. Denial is a form of suppression, and in suppressing the feeling, you allow it to grow and strengthen within you.
Preventing emotions also removes constructive physical and mental energy from you. So the way is not to deny, but to be aware of the negative feeling you feel by acknowledging and accepting it. It's as simple as saying to yourself, "Yes, I'm angry."
When we get to know our feelings, it also means that we know our emotional responses. When you are affected by negative emotions, you usually react in a certain way. For example, when you are sad, your usual reaction may be to pull and stick to yourself.
So to start, sit down and identify your negative reactions to these most common negative feelings: anger, sadness, and fear. Ask yourself what is a positive answer for each emotion. Commit to responding positively the next time you experience the negative emotion.
2. Emotional Control
While suppressing our negative emotions is not healthy, there are occasions where we cannot express this feeling. For example, when you are angry with your boss or customer, you probably cannot express your anger orally to him. At that moment you will need emotional control.
Emotional Control does not respond to the negative emotion, but to hold it down at the moment and do what you need to do to solve the situation. In this case, you may need to keep quiet and listen to what you have the boss say, or be calm and listen to the customer's grievances.
After you've done what you need to do to solve the situation, find a private corner or place and have time for you. In your mind, review that incident and get in touch with this negative feeling again. Let it come to you and find it until it dissolves.
3. Emosional Engagement
Let's change the corner and talk about positive emotions now. While negative emotions adversely affect our performance, positive emotions did the opposite. Of course, when you feel positive or positive, you have to do better, right?
When you are confident about a mission, you must approach it with such a high level of certification and rely on the mental and physical resources to complete it. So the key here is to participate in your positive emotions; it is emotional participation.
The best way is to tap into positive emotions in nature. For example, you might eat your favorite food or listen to your favorite song to put yourself in a positive emotional state when you need it.
However, it can often be uncomfortable to create emotions that are natural emotions. You might be a few minutes from going to an important exam, interview, or presentation, where to find food or music? That's when you can lose positive emotions from your past.
Just close your eyes and in your mind, check out some of the previous events where you felt positive emotions such as success, happiness, self-confidence, motivation, etc. Make sure you are participating in the first few views on a case-by-case basis.
4. Emotional Freedom
Many advocates and studios advocate our negative feelings so that we can deliver better results and results at school and at work. However, if we have to continue to control our negative emotions, wouldn't it be quite tiring? What if we were free of common negative emotions? It would be good, wouldn't it? It's emotional freedom?
Perhaps it is not easy to achieve emotional freedom, because each of us has collected his own fair share or emotional baggage in recent years. Yet, some of us who live happily and successfully in all areas of their lives are because they are free of negative emotional energy.
Release those emotional luggage that you are holding onto you. They could be bypassed by unresolved issues, past relationships, past pain, previous palpitations and past negative events. If there is a person or event that when you remember, you bring negative emotions into you, that is, emotional luggage. Get started and just do it one by one.
Solving it could mean forgiving a person, giving a person a call to apologize, talking about, or participating in the event, or even seeking a professional teacher or psychologist to assist you.
5. Emosional Wisdom
Emosional Wisdom is the ability to see the message behind our feelings. Emotions are the communication from our subconscious mind to the conscious mind. Emotions tell us that something is not right within us that we need to monitor.
For example, if a particular type of speech or action always calls for a negative feeling in you, a root must be somewhere in the subconscious that needs a solution. The question is, do you have the emotional wisdom to know it, look for it and solve it?
You have an emotional wisdom if you can thank you for negative events in your life, such as traumas related to career, communication disorder, and health offenses that call for your inner psychology. With emotional wisdom, you would see what is happening only temporarily and can be changed by solving your inner conflict.
Start by studying what is not right in your life right now. Participate in a third party and try to assess the situation. Ask yourself what might be the subconscious message? You get emotional wisdom with every answer you find.