Erica Jong, author of the revolutionary book Fear of
Flying once said: "Men and women, women and men
will never work." Well, I have more faith and more business experience than Ms. Jong. I know we
can do it at work, at work! – and at home too. One of the top challenges of women's progress is the
relationship of women and men to
charges. But communication is also a challenge for many people
– whether in charge or not.
I want to emphasize that both men and women would well serve each other communication style – in moderation. Never should women use a male
style only or vice versa. One of the most detrimental
behaviors of many women agrees is to become "one of
kids" to fit into the world of business.
Making it suppress their reliability and in the long run,
this is far more damaging than good.
For those who can lack the idea of using any other style than their own, I would suggest simply repeating the
sensation: This is not a golden rule rotation –
handled others like you want to treat? For example, if you would like to communicate with you, then others should prefer to communicate with them in their style
The following are communications and behavioral enhancements for
both men and women that will help them improve
productivity, work relationships, and opportunities for progress
Tips on women who interact with men (or
feminine style with masculine style)
– Be short, but not sudden.
– Keep backup information.
– Avoid tag questions, excuses, narratives ("This is a good report, don't you think?"), ("Well, this is just my opinion,
– Take credit for your accommodation. (Or someone else
– Give updates when prompted or not. (You are not
bragging! If you do not agree with your success with the powers, no one else will do it for you and your skills
can be underestimated.)
– Reduce personal information and problems. This feature
makes them uncomfortable and they can view it poorly
– Treat conflict directly, politely, with compassion.
– Be clear, to the
point, but not rude or sudden. If you're anxious about coming collisions, write your thoughts to clarify and focus on them.]
– Make some independent decisions. (Rather than
ask others for their opinion of solidarity
. Means see this as indecision and lack of trust.)
– Avoid strong impressions of emotions. (Men see this as a
weakness – "too" emotional and not an administrator.)
– Avoid saying "I'm sorry." (It says you were wrong and is often considered weakness and weakness
– When you are interrupted, be straight and polite, not sharp, but
take the floor again. ("Please keep in mind, thanks." Put your
hand to mark "quit" if you need to.)
– Remember that you don't have to imitate someone to work
– Not available in detail; hand over, deliver, assign.
(Evaluate whether the detail is really necessary
a major detail project, form a team to help you.)
– Keep your vision for the club / league to
men / people in charge, and your ideas to achieve this perspective
. If you don't have a vision, get one!
– Be flexible and maintain a positive attitude.
(Different is not right, wrong, bad or good – just different!)
Tips for men who interact with women (or
men with a feminine style)
– Don't expect women and # 39; Smoother style means less
qualified. (It's just different from your style!)
– Be personal and put some personal information.
(Laboratory Adjustment Studies for Male or Female Management Style
shows that the latter is more effective and selected by both men
and women, but not obvious ophthalmic pain. (Women
perceive a lack of ophthalmic gland as deliberate prevention and
– Please & # 39; please & # 39; and & # 39; thank you & # 39; more; use my requirements.
– Avoid (see
that you definitely hear what she is saying.)
– Offer more information, more often.
– Ask women for input and opinions (when you don't,
women think that you do not value their thoughts and
– Watch an insignificant language for confusion or upset. (Women
often do not want to ask questions.)
– Recognize intent Her beliefs may be different from the perception of her words or behavior.
– Say: "I'm sorry" more often. (Including small blunders or negligence.)
– Be empathetic and not afraid of women's tears. (It's just
a different way of expressing emotions. She has been told her
all the life it is acceptable and even good to cry.)
– Don't underestimate the woman's ability just because
she does not talk about her success.
– Be flexible and keep a positive attitude about differences!
Different is not right, wrong, bad or good – just different!
With these tips, "I think we can continue to disprove Erica
Judas believe that men and women together will never
work. It will take commitment, consistency, and practice after both sexes, but we can always do it – because
many are working hard at this – and succeed already!
By Jane Sanders, 877-343-2150; http://www.janesanders.com .